Moms come in many shapes and sizes. Different styles, languages and personalities. Everyone being different is what makes us unique. If we all mothered the same way our kids would all be the same and frankly, what would we argue about if we were all the same? Being unique is amazing. Watching all the different types of moms in my life has made me realized just how blessed I am. I look up to many and am thankful to have others walking this path with me.
Today is not a good mom day for me. I have been up since 7am. It is 11 now and I was just able to start a load of laundry, I am still in my pjs, both kids are on electronic devices and I am eying the full pot of coffee, wondering if that will be the only way I can make it through this day. Everyone mom, no matter what they say, has these kind of days. Having these kind of days is normal, and if you tell me other wise that a fore mentioned coffee might get pored over your head.
Today on facebook I asked my mommy friends to finish this sentence…
You know you’re a mom if/when…
I got a lot of different answers, most of them having to do with bodily functions…
- 1. Always put others first. Leaving little time for make-up, fancy hair or nails.
- 2. Haven’t slept through the night in x amount of years.
- 3. Bodily functions are your new normal and talking/laughing about them at anytime doesn’t make you flinch.
- 4. You can never pee alone
- 5. Haven’t had a hair cut in 6 months(or longer).
- 6. You know where every bathroom is in every store at all times.
Now, there is nothing wrong with this list but it got me thinking. Why, when we think about being moms, do we list all the things we can’t do? Why are our first thoughts about the things we have to give up? Then I came across this reason…
- 7.Your daughter brings her doll to the dinner table and helps her fold her hands for prayer.
- 8. When the child has driven you to tears with her blatant defiance, so you retreat to your bedroom, and she follows you, climbs into your lap, puts both little hands on your face, and kisses your wet cheeks. Then wraps her little arms around your neck.
Aren’t those the reasons we should focus on when asked about being a mom? I actually found myself frustrated with the answers of my fellow moms this morning. I am not saying that my first thoughts of being a mom are ‘uplifting’ but I do try to think of things that I can/get to do now that I have kids.
- 9. The other night my husband was teasing me and I turned to him and told him that he was in the dog house. My husband happened to be holding our 3 yr old and she seriously took his face in her hands and adamantly told him that he couldn’t be in the dog house because he wasn’t a dog.
That last one actually happened to me. We laughed so hard and even now I can’t help but smile while I think about it.
So I guess this post about moms is to have you think. Really think about what makes you a mom. Is it really all of the things you can’t do or the bodily function stories? Or is it the funny lines, smiles, peanut butter kisses, flying hugs, snuggles and milestones that make up being a mom?
- 10. When the highlight of your day is your little ones running to hug you after work like they haven’t seen you in years
As a mom you will always have hard days, I know I do. I guess, my challenge for myself is to focus on the funny times instead of the fact that my kids are on their umpteenth meltdown of the day and they have only been up for 4 hours.