As an Army wife, paramedics wife, and fire fighters wife I know just how important it is to ‘treasure every moment’. We are told this over and over. They even do an entire seminar on it when your husband deploys. All the books tell you this. What they don’t tell you, that you really don’t think about it till the chance that you can’t comes along. These chances don’t creep up. They happen in a flash, a page out to an accident and a news report.
http://helenair.com/news/update-three-forks-fire-chief-helena-family-of-five-confirmed/article_0de7f3f8-f836-11e3-aea2-0019bb2963f4.htmlThat was the crash my husband got called to last night. I know that every time he goes out the door for a shift that there is a chance I won’t get to talk to him again. I really try not to think about this possibility most days. Even the most seasoned fire/ems wife will tell you that no matter how hard you try, a little bit of fear always slides up your throat as they walk out the door. We know they train, and train and train for any possibility of situations but we still fear that our nightmare will come true and they won’t come home.
It is days like today where I rethink what is important to me. Is it the clean house for sabbath? Or is it playing my little ponies with the princess.Maybe it is watching a TV show as a family while my kids put puzzles together and pretend to sweep up the puzzles pieces with the hand broom.
Most days I remember what a blessing it is to watch my husband snuggle with my kids. I remember what a blessing it is to hear them laughing, learning, and experiencing life to its fullest. There is something about watching a 3 and 5 yr old experience life that makes you remember just how wonderfully our world is made.
Days like today really make my heart hurt. I tend to be the kind of person that hurts when others hurt even if I don’t know them. I cry because I can imagine the pain. I can imagine the pain of the first responders. I can read the pain in my husbands eye’s as he hold our kids tight after a rough shift, or a call like today. I watch as calls like this take the ‘fun’ out of my husbands career. Yes, the fact that he finds it fun can come across as morbid and unfeeling, but he loves his job. He finds it fun to help people. He finds it fun to be the one that can assure family members that their loved one will be ok. He finds it fun that kids look up to him and want to do his job when they grow up. And if he is completely honest he likes driving fast with the sirens and lights going. So yes, a call like this takes the fun out of his job.
No matter what your lives are full of. No matter what yours or your spouses career is. Take every opportunity to take advantage of every moment you have together. Treasure everything that your significant other says. Treasure every hug and sticky kiss for your kids. Hug those you love and tell them that you love them everyday!